I was having one of “those” nights last night. Again.
There are just so many things not going smoothly in my life, and aside from feeling worn out from the stress and worry, I am tired of battling with Ms. Magoo, which in turn makes me question myself, worrying that I am not doing it all “right” with her.
By the time we got to her bedroom at bedtime I felt ready to crack. Tears spilled over, and I couldn’t seem to get myself under control for over half an hour.
Then, as these things happen, I sat down to check out Facebook and some blogs that I follow. Great timing.
First up was a great read, shared by Pamela Price, and Marnie Craycroft, called “Yeah. I’m THAT mom.” by Amanda Morgan of Not Just Cute. I almost continued to cry as I read, but realized I was feeling comforted by Amanda’s words. She reminded me that we are not alone. While we can try to tell ourselves over again that we are not the only one who makes mistakes, sometimes we need to actually hear it from another mother to really get it: we can’t be perfect, do it all and get it right every time.
Next, I popped over to a blog I recently discovered, Winds of Lindy, man this girl has a way with words! I read through some of her posts from the week that I had missed, and again, found myself feeling soothed by Lindy’s words as she too spoke of this illusion of perfection that we, as mothers, seem to strive for.
We can only do the best that we can, and each and every one of us makes mistakes. That is part of learning and growing.
Which is one of the most important things that we can teach our children: to get up, try again and learn from their mistakes.
So instead of beating ourselves up when we have a rough day, perhaps we should be patting ourselves on the back for a job well done.
Keeping our chin up, doing the best we can and making the most of it all; those are not really bad things to be teaching our kids are they?